Three ways to hate: chapter 2 (4/5), page 55-60

Andrew Wake Newsletter, Parenting


There are broadly three ways to deal with disappointment and the emotions it creates.  Most people at different times use all three, but each person tends to have their own particular pattern…and some patterns are more helpful than others.

As a parent, helping our child learn how to hate well (confident to act on anger or get over it) is one of the most important tasks we have.  Confidence with our own and other’s anger is a powerful model to our children.

As in most things, the event doesn’t matter, it is what happens next that matters.  This is certainly true when the emotion of hate emerges.  We have the opportunity to help our child learn how to accept disappointment, and repair whatever rupture occurred in the relationship.


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